Here I sit at 4am on a Sat. morning listening to the neighborhood roosters crowing. I have been listening to my son's watch beep every hour on the hour and after the 4th beep, I know that I've been awake far too long to prolong what I need to get up and do......Share my Story!!!
Last night I know is the mark of a new chapter in my life, but I will first start my story with Chapter 1.
Chapter 1~~~My Life Growing Up
I was born and raised in a very small town called New Sharon, Iowa. I had a very easy life compared to many. I was the youngest in my family with two older brothers, all very close in age. My parents loved me and told me so, probably everyday. I had a very happy, healthy home.
I come from a very rich christian heritage that goes back many generations. I was prayed for before I was ever born. Never missed a Sunday church service, or Wednesday youth night! Summer church camps were instrumental in my spiritual growth as well. I Loved my Church!!! (Still Do)
Growing up, we didn't have much money in my younger years (I had no idea) because God provided EVERYTHING we ever needed and I even, sometimes, got things that I wanted!!! =)
I thought my family was/is fun. My two older brothers, you see, are both comedians, or so they think!!! 0.0 Dinner at the table always ended up with much much laughter! I have very fond memories of the times at our little cabin at Lake Ponderosa with friends and family! And many fun camping trips as well. We called them, vacations, but they sure were a lot of work!!! I will cherish the memories of growing up in the DeBoef household! I'm blessed to be apart of it!
Chapter 2~~~College Days
I'm not sure if the Lord had me go to North Central University, formerly know as North Central Bible College, or if bible quiz and fine arts scholarships encouraged me to attend. I think I decided that's where I was going to go when I was 14. Influenced by a music group that came to our church "One Accord". I love music. I was a trumpet player and singer and I thought that somehow, someday, I'd be famous or something, I didn't know that I really wasn't THAT good until I started college and was surrounded by so many extraordinary musicians! That kind of put a damper on my dreams of being famous. God gently brought me down and I sincerely felt like I was to do something else that was also a passion of mine. Hair. As I talked to the "end of the year" guidance counselor, I decided to be brave and tell him about my next plan of action. So with my head down, I mumbled my plans. He asked why I would be ashamed to be apart of such an incredible field of ministry and I had never really looked at it like that before. So within the next few days, I found myself enrolled in cosmetology school. I LOVED every second of it! And I still do!!! There's something about a salon chair that makes people open up their hearts and become vulnerable. That's the place that I can step in and not be "Just a Hairdresser". I believe that God has used me these past 12 years for just that! I will continue to minister to women through hair!!! Sounds funny!! So Wayne finished NCU and I finished school at about the same time, which then brings me to the next chapter!!
Chapter 3~~~My Soulmate
Sometimes I forget how amazing my husband is......now is a great time to reflect!!! Wayne Thomas was my brother's roommate at NCBC. That is how we met. He comes from a strong christian home as well. As he is almost 5 yrs older than me, it was not love at first sight or anything, but just a charming friendship! Over the next few yrs. is when it started to develop into something, and I knew that I could Never live without him! I think he thought the same!?! We married in 1997 after dating for 2 years! I was/am the luckiest/most blessed women alive! We moved our life to Orlando, Florida right after the wedding. The Lord had us there and took great care of us with miracles after miracles. I love to reflect on the Lord's hand on our young, inexperienced lives. We were blessed beyond measures with our first son, Landon, in 2000. Wayne, shortly after finding out we were going to have a baby, was asked to start touring as Ron Kenoly's full-time drummer. He didn't tell me about it and he told them that he couldn't. I found out a few days later from a friend that didn't know that I didn't know!!! I felt very strongly that he was to go and play! He did, and what a blessing this job was to our lives. This lasted nearly four years and another child later, our second little angel, Sydney, aka Sipper. Into her 1st year, the Lord was telling us it was time for Wayne to move on! With nothing on the sideline, he continued until he could find something else. In those few LOOONNNNGGGG months, is when we were in disobedience and we knew, as things started falling apart for us for the first time, ie finances, marriage, and just lack of joy altogether! So Wayne quit, and what do you know,?, he was offered a job the same day! And doing something that he, too, had always wanted to do. Run a recording studio!! He did that for the next 1 1/2 years which led us to the job opportunity at NCU. I had been praying that God would move us back closer to my kid's grandma and grandpa. My mommy and daddy!!!! I had missed the midwest. That's when we moved back up to Mn. So Wayne helped NCU get a state of the art recording studio off the ground. Shortly after we moved to Mn, I was expecting baby #3. Another little angel, Harley, born in 2005. I'm very blessed with my 3 perfectly healthy children. I love them SOOOOOO much!!!
So all this time, I have been working in salons and renting spaces for my own business, until, Mn. Wayne and I decided, with the move, and new baby coming that it was time for me to stay home and be a full-time mommy. That sounded perfect. I slowly started doing friends, college students, and neighbor's hair out of my house until, soon, I was busier than my kitchen would allow. Wayne, then, surprised me and built me a beautiful salon in our new house. Complete with the sink and all the salon furniture. I was set. So from then on, I worked professionally out of my home, while still being able to mother my kids MYSELF!!!! It was perfect!!!! We were so blessed!!!
We had a lovely house in a new neighborhood, but the houses were practically on top of each other. Wayne has a phobia with his personal space and he started dreaming of a house with a little bit of land to go with it. I'm going into detail with this, because it was one of the first times that I was sooooo sure that I heard the Lord's voice!!! I had a phone call from someone in the church that I hadn't officially met yet, asking about a hair appt. I met and loved her instantly and she invited me to her bible studies on Tues. mornings. I went. As I was driving to her house, a whole 3 miles away, I felt like I was Alice In Wonderland. Beautiful neighborhood in the woods, but still so close to everything! As I approached her address, I passed a house for sale and made a note to pick up a flier after the bible study. As I did so, I pulled over in front of the house and read the flier and then I saw the price, and decided it was time to stop the dreaming. As I was pulling away, the Lord distinctly said "This is YOUR house". I almost laughed to myself, due to the "double we can afford" price. I said ok Lord, make it happen!!!! I called Wayne, he was in Ca playing drums with BH, and told him that I saw a house I thought he'd be interested in. He said, you'll never believe this, but I was JUST praying that God would change your heart about moving; you see, I was happy where we were and didn't feel like moving again. He had been trying to persuade me, but I imagined living out in the boondocks on a farm away from civilization and wasn't real thrilled with the idea. Because Wayne would love that. I've been there. Done that. And Over it!!! So apparently, God HAD been working in my heart and it was a compromise. Woodsy, which I do like, and land, but still close to everything!!! Still had to figure out the whole $ thing. God did that for us.....It was a process of a year and a few months, but the Lord came through for us. We traded houses with her! How crazy is that? We love the house and hope to finish our lives there! Which leads me to the next chapter.....
Chapter 4~~~The Calling
Okay. So very shortly after moving into our lovely home and setting up another wonderful salon. I walked in to our church one Sun. morning. The minute I walked through the doors, I felt very funny. "Too much caffeine" I thought.
Dave Pedde, a great friend of ours, was leading worship and Wayne was on the drums. The music began and my tears started flowing, I had no idea even why. It was not called for at the time. (No offense to anyone) But I didn't know what had come over me. I am NOT an emotional person, well maybe a little, but I rarely cry!!! I might be able to conjure up a few tears here and there, but it's not a common occurrence for me! I COULDN'T STOP! It went on throughout the whole worship service and then kept on going. I was embarrassed and Wayne was concerned from the drum set. People started hugging me and I felt really dumb. I couldn't answer why. We had a missionary to Africa doing the service and I continued to cry throughout his whole message. And then I KNEW.........the Lord was calling me/us to go. I felt it soooo strongly that it was undeniable. As the missionary continued, I was so moved, still a basket case, and was also trying to figure out how this would ever work! It just couldn't. We aren't preachers. We're not even speakers. How would we ever raise support and what would we even be qualified to do there? But even with all the excuses I could think of , I KNEW. However, I didn't say anything to Wayne.
That night the missionaries were going to be at the Pastor's house sharing slides and more in-depth details of their mission. Now, I normally don't do hair on Sundays, but on this particular Sunday I had two friends coming. I had to cancel them so that I could go to the Pastor's house.
And wouldn't you know.....the minute I walked up the driveway, here come the tears again. "Oh No....Here we go again." I tried to gain my composure before I entered. I did.......For about a whole of maybe 3 mins. and again the tears came gushing out......I wanted to leave. I was soooo embarrassed!!! What was I crying about???? I cried the whole time and all the way home. Thankfully Wayne was playing somewhere that night and wasn't home!!! I cried all evening and internalized over and over what the Lord was asking me/us to do. What He was asking me/us to give up!!! Late that night, when Wayne got home, I had to tell him. I was too suspicious with my red, puffy eyes, and scratchy throat NOT to tell him. He didn't seem too surprised. The month before he had been playing for BH in Africa and met with some friends of his parents for dinner. Wayne grew up in Nairobi, Kenya, I probably should have told you that before, in case you didn't know. They said that the Lord kept placing Wayne on their hearts for someone to come and facilitate the Watoto "World Tour". Wayne said that he would pray about it. He hadn't mentioned this to ME (his wife)
WHY? That was my same question!!!!! He said that he just wanted to pray about this alone without any influences.
"So?" I ask. "What did He tell you?"
"He JUST NOW told me that we're suppose to go!!!!"
Through ME guys. Through ME!!!!! God spoke through ME!!!! Can I be a little excited about that???